I gave out my first donut today.
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I was going to talk about the Inauguration, but that went well, and I have nothing to ad but praise for it. So I'm going to talk about donuts instead. Mean ones, not the tasty sort.
I had to stop reading comments because I felt like I was constantly saying, "Dude, that was not nice, now apologize!" I didn't say it near as often as I should have. Those people just made me feel so old with their juvenile bickering and name-calling. And I felt compelled to HR a commenter for being disruptive and deliberately misrepresenting the diary as spam when it so very clearly wasn't.
What's up with giving a brand new diarist a donut just because the diarist hadn't made any comments before publishing the diary, just like I did when I published my first diary?
I wrote my first diary here on DKos on March 5, 2011, and I made my first comments in that diary. Until I wrote the diary, I hadn't had the courage to comment in anyone else's diary. The warm welcome I received made me brave enough to comment in other people's diaries. If I'd been viciously attacked like this new diarist was, I would have left DKos that day and never looked back.
We should cherish our newest diarists, protect them from scummy behavior from Those People who would HR a brand new diarist and diary.
And it's not trolls passing out the donuts on the new diarists. I've seen it happen on several first diaries by new Kossacks. These people are TU and long term members, have themselves written good diaries, have left many thoughtful and kind comments, so I am left going - what the fuck?
What set them off to so viciously attack a new diarist? They don't seem to have a history of being unkind, so what provoked them to drop undeserved donuts on a first diary?
And more importantly, why won't they back off when they realize the new diarist isn't a spammer or a troll themselves, just a new diarist wanting to be a part of the DKos conversation, to be a part of the DKos community?
What an unpleasant welcome they give new diarists when they do that.
We should be welcoming the new diarists with open arms and engaging them in fascinating dialogue, or at least friendly dialogue.
I'm proud of the Kossacks who stepped up to engage today's new diarist with thoughtful comments to distract him from those awful donuts he was given (OK, one took back his donut, but he refused to apologize for dropping it and continued to be trollish). If I could rec what those kind Kossacks did more than once I would. Those people are my kind of Kossacks!
I still want to know: since when is being a new diarist with zero comments a valid reason to drop donuts on them?
More importantly, how can we create an environment where that doesn't happen?