Really! Teens these days! American teens! And, surely, Canadian teens.
How they get their sex ed these days!
Porn films! Particularly male teenagers.
These teens have seen so many smoothly shaved public areas, particularly female pubic areas, that they think pubic hair is gross.
Teen girls, desperate to be sexually attractive, shave, “down there”.
I never knew this, because I watch so little porn, but apparently female porn stars shave their pubic areas to give the camera a clearer view of the action, unobstructed by pubic hair.
The source from whom I stole all this startling information? Peggy Orenstein, author of Girls & Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape, Cinderella Ate My Daughter: Dispatches from the Front Lines of the New Girlie-Girl Culture …
Listen to Orenstein’s discourse …
Then, there’s also anal sex, also covered by Orenstein. Male teens seem to call all the shots sexually and, wedded as they are to sports analogies, sexual activity is littered with baseball metaphors, having anal sex with a girl is achieving “fifth base”, something that appears to be on every young lad’s “bucket list”.
Really! How appalling for teens to have “bucket lists”! And, what does “fifth base” signify? The act itself, achieving dominance over a girl — girls don’t seem to enjoy it much — and bending them to masterful male will. Macho imperialism!
Why don't these silly, stupidly despotic boys bravely have anal sex with another boy (in both positions) and call it “sixth base”? Or even “sixth and seventh bases”?
And, frankly, I can think of a few graphic examples of male anal grapplings … first an account of an attack on a boy rendered by despotic Joe Paterno’s good friend Jerry Sandusky, that aren’t so nice.
And, speaking of war stories and anal sex, Pat Barker covers various degrees of coercion and pleasure in anal sex in her World War I trilogy: Regeneration, 1991; The Eye in the Door, 1993; and The Ghost Road, 1995, good reads about the stupidity of war and recommended reading for teens.
In the meantime, Orenstein cites sex ed in the Netherlands as a model for Americans to follow. Seems reasonable. But, how about including some graphic homosexual sex for the kiddies, like how to engage in anal sex without inflicting pain — and teaching girls how to achieve orgasm, courtesy of lesbians. For some reason female sexual release is not on the heterosexual sexual agenda.
Must plug another read: The Technology of Orgasm: "Hysteria," the Vibrator, and Women's Sexual Satisfaction, 1999, Rachel P. Maines, Times Review.
And, happy Mommy’s day!