My timing is always off, and I want to do this right now. Timing is everything, people or whomever say, well I don’t have timing, I have a hard life, and some things that don’t wait. This is one of them.
A male survivor (as I currently understand) is some male person who has been molested or raped. I’m both. Once when I was 12, an older friend experimented, using me as his subject. Then, when I was 16, I was raped by 2 men, not beaten, but made to be their subject. These are complicated and I am stating it to segue to the most important topic, and an epidemic in my opinion, childhood sexual assault as it relates to the Male Survivor and healing.
I’ve searched for a couple of things you could consider Enough Abuse and On Trauma Theory: Trauma Narrative . Both of those were meant to get you caught up, to know about this topic.
I’ve noticed there may be growing interest in this topic, and I want it accelerated. Like other marginalized persons, LGBTQ persons for example, the childhood sexual assault victims will often be marginalized by circumstance, their abuse missed. Exacerbating the pain, it’s often overlooked by their closest family members, or worse, sometimes they’re the ones who create the terror. I’ve learned, like myself waiting 39 years to look at this, others too wait years and decades. It’s very traumatic, it’s very painful, and it stirs a myriad of emotions that are overwhelming. Consider what It’s like for me, typing this right now. (I just made 20 typos, corrected). — pause….
Deep breath:
Today, I found an additional site I’m grateful exists. Beyond measure, it’s what I have known to be healing in all my experiences during a lifetime of working out some thing or another. It’s what life is. A facade of strength is that. People either have a support system which buoys them, have some support, or don’t. Too many, don’t. This, now that the internet in the U.S. is more widely available, has helped create support for the Male Survivor, for myself.
Male Survivor is a site I’ve been looking at for about 2 weeks. It took me a while to find it. I searched quite a few combinations until it finally popped up. Then, one must register. It’s vetted, and I’m grateful for the platform, reading and potential outreach.
The site posted this Healthline story today, and it’s been a look at what’s happening to me. That’s all I can manage. There’s a video to share, and it’s difficult. To some, we state it could be a TRIGGER.