I moved. I got away from the control and me and my little one are in Wisconsin and loving it. We have such a large family and it's been great. Plus the 1000 miles between my ex and I have given me a renewed feeling of controlling my own destiny. I feel I am back on track and going forward. He moved back last night and I don't really care. I'm glad he is choosing to be close to his daughter and I am where I want to be. So I called his bluff and just left and things ended up going my way. Maybe the President should take the same approach with the looming fiscal cliff, that isn't really a cliff and legislation in January can be retroactive so no one is harmed. Call their bluff, it worked for me to get away from an abusive and controlling man...sound familiar?!?!?!