It's okay -- I'm not one of those women who looked at your photos and said, "Oh, get over yourself!" The pictures are fine, but I'm willing to assume from experience that they're not doing your looks full justice. I know a lot of models, and I know a lot of beautiful women. They're usually not the same people. Because plenty of models aren't that pretty in real life -- they're just very tall women with a bone structure the camera adores. And beautiful people often don't photograph well. I know exactly one woman who's gorgeous and photographs like a dream. She's a supermodel. There's a reason they're called that.
So, no, I'm not going to say you're conceited or delusional when you talk about the unexpected difficulties being too pretty can bring with it. I'm not going to argue that your problems aren't real, either. I'm in no position to judge.
Instead, I'm going to give you a workable, non-snarky piece of advice that will solve your dilemma. You'll stop losing friends -- in fact, you'll make new ones. You won't be sneered at or resented by bosses or acquaintances because you're too pretty. Best of all, you won't have to wait for old age to attack in order to fade into the background.
Move to Los Angeles.
In England, your blonde hair sticks out like a single dandelion on an otherwise flat, featureless plain. Here in L.A., we're over it. Being a natural blonde won't even save you that much time at the salon. Because here, it's not what you've got -- it's what you do with it. And you'd better be doing something with it. Every minute. Or -- oops! Where'd you go, Invisible Woman?
In England, you're considered slim. In L.A., you're "Oh, my God, that woman must be a size ten!" You'll still have strange men running up to you. But they'll be personal trainers offering to help you with your little weight problem. When you protest that you go to the gym -- well, you might want to keep that to yourself. Because I know that in England, you're slim. But in L.A., you're natural. As in, "It's natural for women to have curves! And by curves, we mean 'more weight than is technically required to keep you alive'! Some men even like that kind of thing!"
In England, you're a perfectly pretty lady who was blessed with pleasing looks. L.A. is the gathering place for women all over the world who were blessed with a lot more than that.
In England, insecure female friends don't want you for a bridesmaid because your looks don't flatter theirs. In L.A., women who insist on nothing but the best for their special day hire women prettier than you to be their bridesmaids.
Oh: and in England, you might be able to flirt your way to the top as you describe doing, or at least wink and wiggle your way up a few rungs. In L.A.? The population's dense, the economy's in the toilet, and the competition's fierce. You'd better have talent. Or else be prepared to do one hell of a lot more than just flirt. Because as you may have noticed, the water's pretty shallow over here on this side of the pond; but although our men are still relentlessly fixated on female appearances, they've started to learn a bit about sexual favoritism lawsuits. Many of these men are wary enough not to risk such a threat unless they feel assured of a lot more than the pleasure of your winning smile.