Over there at Twitter, there’s a truly disgusting hashtag.
Now that’s nothing really new for Twitter. It is social networking and a lot of it is ridiculous. But the hashtag (LiberalTips2AvoidRape, and no, I won’t supply an actual link) is nasty on a whole new level of nasty.
It seems patently obvious that many of the Gen-Y (or Millennial) Conservative crowd in the US has trouble with the concept of “Don’t Rape.” Perhaps they’re egged on by their parents who also have a tough time with the concept of “Don’t Rape.” Gen-Y can be pretty assholeish--I'd know. I'm part of it and I've taken a lot of steps to not be an asshole.
To be fair as a society—American, North American, European derived, global, we all do have this problem. We see it in media reports and the example I’m about to give is archetypical:
“So-and-so had sexual relations with So and so against their will.”
What’s wrong with this sentence? Everything! “So-and-so RAPED So-and-So.” Period. Why cloud it?
So I thought I’d write this guide. This guide is not me being snarky and satirical. I’m quite serious about this.
When is it okay to rape? The answer is never. It is never okay to rape anyone. Not a man. Not a woman. Not children. Not teenagers. Not anyone.
I put a lot of the diary below the fold. I think it might be triggering. I apologize in advance.
“But, she was in a short skirt! And her privates were hanging out!” or “They were totally naked!” or “She was dressed like a streetwalker so she had it coming.”
No, you don’t get to rape them. And no, she didn’t deserve to get raped.
“But I need to exhibit my power over her!”
Nope, you don’t get to rape her.
“But we’re married so I can do whatever I want!”
Nope, you don’t get to rape her. No means no even in marriage.
“But we’re in prison and there’s no women around!”
Nope! You don’t get to rape him either.
“But he/she is a prostitute! They like it anyway.”
Nope! Wrong again. No means no. They said stop. You stop.
“But people who say No are just being teases!”
Nope! No means no. You don’t get to rape them.
“He or she was drunk!”
Yeah I don’t care. That doesn’t mean you get to rape them. It’s wrong. It’s a crime.
“I hope they get stuck in a cell with a dude named Bubba.”
Even this is wrong. Rape is rape. You do not go to prison for a crime to get victimized again. It is not part of ones sentence.
So much of how we approach this is wrong as all get out. Instead of teaching our kids “Don’t Rape,” we tell them “Don’t dress like a goddamn slut.” What the hell does that even mean? I think a man or a woman should be able to leave their home dressed however they want and not have to worry about some freak with something to prove raping them. Instead of teaching people it’s entirely the fault of the rapist we blame the person who was raped. This is not okay.
This seems like common sense to me. “Don’t rape, and teach that to your offspring.” Apparently conservatives thinks this is too much.