Here’s an explanation of this group:
(Someone else wrote this explanation.)
Here’s my explanation of this group, written by me:
WYFP? means, What is Your F-ing Problem.
It’s a joke, because, traditionally, when someone speaks that phrase, it’s an angry, verbal attack. “What’s your f-ing problem!??” means, “Why are you annoying me?!?”
But here at Daily Kos, we are all about puppies and kittens, and we express mostly concern, and a desire to give each other emotional support.
So, when we ask that question in this Saturday night series of diaries,
we are truly asking if you have any problems you want to tell us about, and we will be your sounding board, your group therapy group, your peer support group.
That’s why the sign board above says, “May we find peace and healing here.”
There.
I took care of one of my problems: folks asking what does the WYFP? stand for.
Now, on to more problems.
First, the fund raising problem:
In itself, at it’s core, I actually do not have any truly serious problems in the area of fund raising. Myself, and several others, at least five or ten of us, maybe more like ten or twenty of us, blogging here at Daily Kos, have been involved, some of us for many years, with raising money in various ways, using this great Daily Kos community, and the servers, owned by kos, and managed by his staff.
In general, those who truly need money, ask for money, and get the money, at least some amount of money.
We have no serious problems, but we have some rather annoying problems.
The problems that have me upset:
From time to time, this individual or that individual, will do something that upsets many of those involved in the fund raising, and there are various rules and regulations proposed, suggested for the purpose of avoiding anger among us.
Also, sometimes, this individual or that individual will do something that upsets the staff of Daily Kos, and that user is banned from the site.
Do you get the picture here? Nice folks, puppies and kittens, “please send a little money so I can pay the bills,” and in the middle of that, such a user is banned from Daily Kos.
Banned.
This is very personal for me, since my number one goal, here at Daily Kos, is to get, (and, of course, to give,) emotional support.
I need emotional support.
That is why I joined this group, for the emotional support. This premise, post your problems each week, that is ideal for me. And even if none of you specifically comment on my problems, your recs and tips and recs on comments I may write, all that tells me you are feeling some empathy for me.
And I thank you.
But to think that a little friendly begging for money, if done in a way the staff does not like, to think that can get me banned…….
About two years ago, my wife and I asked for money, and got about $4,000.
I am so glad that my wife is now (starting last December) getting her disability money from Social Security.
Nowadays, we donate a little to those asking for money, rather than asking for money for us.
One of those I give to monthly, by way of Patreon, she got banned. It was jan4insight. She is 71 or 72 years old, and simply could not figure out a better way to survive, financially. She posted two to four fund raising diaries, in the first half of each month, and that was working just fine.
Then the staff of Daily Kos told her, only one diary per month. After they told her, she posted a diary, in the first days of this month, but then, later that night, posted a new diary, as a piggy back on the first diary, so that folks wanting to comment or donate, would not have so many comments to load, since loading many hundreds of comments can bog down some computers.
She was banned.
Immediately.
Oh well. She still gets money each month from us, by way of Patreon. By the way, public service announcement: If you want to donate money to anyone, and you know this person will need money each month, until further notice, set up a regular monthly payment with Patreon. To do otherwise, if you stop and think, is a little bit cruel. You can always change your mind, later, and cancel, right?
Next problem:
My wife and I live in a house with five other people.
We have a little money ahead, and my wife’s brothers will help us, and we will buy a place of our own, soon. We will move out, along with my wife’s other brother, the one who is single, not the head of the house.
So, it will be three adults in the home we buy next.
And that will leave the mom and dad and the two children in the other home.
However.
My wife and I are the main day care workers for the niece, who is two and a half years old.
So, we must, somehow, all move at the same time, together.
So we will need, at a minimum, two houses, situated right next door to each other.
And, we must pay cash, no mortgage loan.
And we only have about $20,000 to work with, so each house must be purchased at about $10,000.
We might find a house for sale, maybe at an auction, for $10,000 here in the low income, black, neighborhood of Wichita, Kansas, but can we find two right next door to each other?
And my brother-in-law, who is in charge of all this, hates everyone, except those few he knows well, and knows they have some kind of sense, so, he wants no neighbors.
No neighbors.
But we need to be pretty much in town, since my wife is very disabled, I am getting elderly, and the baby is two and a half, and any of us may need to get to the hospital, quickly. So, way out in the country, seems too dangerous, in case of medical emergencies.
When I say my brother-in-law hates everyone, I mean that if, for example, any neighbor fails to keep their lawn mowed, that may bring a city inspector to our place, as well as theirs, and it may cost us some fines. Example: Just about a month ago, high winds blew down our neighbor’s dead tree, into our front yard. Our neighbor said he would take care of it, in a few days. He never did. Someone else, about a week later, driving by, offered to remove the dead tree that was taking up half the front yard, just laying there. This someone else, did not charge us anything. He just wanted the wood, for his own uses. Maybe to sell to others, as firewood for their back yard fire pits, or living room fireplaces.
So you see, my brother-in-law is not that crazy. (And he does not say he hates everyone, I just wrote it that way, to make my point in bold terms.) If we are stuck with incredibly stupid neighbors, for many years, that could make our lives truly challenging.
To review, we need to buy, as soon as possible, land that is:
1. One acre, at least.
2. No close neighbors.
3. In or very near the city, so we can get to the hospital quickly, if needed.
4. Two houses, or two mobile homes, or some kind of place for shelter, two such places, all on that land.
5. It must be ready for all of us to move in, all at the same time, so there is no commute for the baby, from her parents to my wife and I.
6. The total move-in cost needs to be no more than $20,000.
That is a rather big freaking problem.
We will see how it all works out.
So, tell us your problems in the comments.
Thanks for reading.